Hi Dar, welcome. In some cases you have to do what you have to do, and
forget about support from husbands, wives, friends, etc. I know that
sounds harsh, but you're doing this for you. I'm LC, but I'm also
diabetic, so I don't eat many of the things my hubby does, but they're
here for him. Most things don't bother me much anymore, and quite a few
of the things that were here before LC, were more things that I liked
than things that he just had to have. For instance there are lots of
cakes and things that I'm not really crazy about, but he likes fine, so
when I bake for him, I make cakes and pies and things like that, that
don't call to me. I don't make things that I can't leave alone, and
since he's having a wide variety, he doesn't complain. Good luck, and
looking forward to your progress.

--
Cheri

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I met a bicyclist on a camping trip 2 years ago.  I was reading my copy
of Atkins "New Diet Revolution".

He asked some questions about it.  He was a LARGE bicyclist.

It turned out his wife had started it a while back.

He just peppered her with questions, and expressed doubts that it won't
work because she couldn't explain it to him.

She evidently finally gave up.

I wish that there was some way I could have really hurt him.

Beware that there are some people who will seriously try to poison your
success with dieting.  I have accumulated several stories of that now.

I wish you wisdom and strength to endure and survive and succeed.

Jim

Hello Dar

Having an non-supportive partner can be possibly the single most
difficult thing to overcome when attempting to improve your weight or
fitness, in fact when doing anything that takes time and dedication.

My wife has always been very supportive of the things I do and I am very
appreciative of her and consider myself a very lucky man. When I started
low carb, she learned to read labels, understood what levels of carbs I
was aiming for and when she shopped would bring home things for me to
try that fitted into my requirements. She ate a lot of what I ate (and
lost weight, too much weight) but she also still eats things like her
favourite desserts and cookies etc. We have no conflict between our
needs diet-wise. She eats most of the things that I eat (I do most of
the cooking) but if I make a pasta sauce, I will have it with crumbled
cauliflower, she has hers with pasta. The same with things that normally
have rice, potato, I skip them, she has a small quantity. It isn't
difficult. Although my wife certainly doesn't eat as low a level of
carbs as I do, she has become very carb aware, to the extent that she
now reads menus in restaurants looking for things like grilled fish
rather than battered, and meals that don't have a high carb value and
reports back to me when something is particularly good. (She eats lunch
in restaurants every day.)

There can be a lot of reasons for a lack of support, some - depending on
the relationship - can be overcome, some not. Have you really tried
talking about how important his support is for you? Have you had a
series of failed diet attempts that cause him to regard this as "just
another diet that won't work"? Has he had failed attempts at weight
loss? Is he concerned that if you lose weight that you may attract other
men? This is something that is not uncommon, a wife seriously working
toward becoming more attractive can dent the complacency of some men.
Are the two of you competitive? If so he may resent feeling that you are
beating him at something.

It is also important for you to realise that support and encouragement
is one thing, expecting other family members to avoid all carbs when
around you is unrealistic and very likely to lead to contention and
disagreement. What you need is support for your diet encouragement for
you efforts while allowing others to continue with the way they wish to
eat. They are hardly likely to be supportive of you if what you are
doing impinges on their enjoyment of life.

Perhaps, if your husband is also overweight, when you start to lose
weight he will realise that this is a diet that DOES work and will
consider joining you.

Whatever happens, stick with it. Perhaps you can find support from
someone outside your family, maybe another local woman who wants to lose
weight. Compare notes, recipes etc., and possibly share exercise like
walking.

Regards

David

Hi Dar, welcome to the group!