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Weight Loss Forum / Low Carb / January 2004Right - this time....I'm sticking to it......!!
Morning all, please can I join your group and hopefully have the long termers good habits rub off on me down the wires ? :) I have been dabbling with Atkins for the last two years and know for a fact it works for me. But I regularly fall off the wagon with a resounding crash and as a consequence where I started out unhappy at 10 stone ( I was 8.5 stone when I met hubby) I am now terrified and disgusted with myself at 11 stone 6. Just before Christmans, I discovered I had gone to 11 stone 3 and in a fit of determination did 3 very strict weeks of Atkins, plus introduced excersise. In three weeks I was at 10 stone 11. Hurrah!! Then I developed an infected cyst in my boob and ended up in hospital for four days. Of course UK hospitals aren't really into Atkins and besides as my family has a history of breast cancer I was a bit wired and ended up comfort eating too. Fortunately as I'm getting infections it means I am a low cancer risk so Phew on that score. But once out of hospital I just lost the plot again. Then it was Christmas. Then my 35th Birthday. The excuses go on and on. I'm on day three of antibiotics for another infection now, but as my clothes are getting tight again I checked on the scales and Bingo - 11 stone 6. This is heavier than just after I had my son nine years ago. Please can some of you lovely people throw a few crumbs (Freudian slip!!) of advice my way, or at least help me figure out why I keep sabpotaging my efforts? My husband loves me just the way I am, and says if I looked fat he would tell me - I do curvy all over so I'm lucky in that way, but watching my wardrobe shrink is really upsetting me. For Christmas he bought me three boxes of chocolates, and is more inclined to believe I have an underactive thyroid than actually we're eating badly all together. He will not eat any veggies apart from potatoes, and has always been the same, and I'm well aware of the pitfalls here - however he says if anything green passes his lips he'll throw up. Hypnotism didn't work. Consequently though I have painstakingly explained Atkins and how good it is for me to him, he has a kind of mental block that means he will give me treats which are not on the Atkins list. If I reject them he feels really hurt. If I ask him not to do it, he says he just wants to make me happy, and as he knows I love chocolates etc this is his way of being affectionate. The trouble is I'm inclined to start blaming him for my weight gain, and ultimately it's my own choice not to put the bad stuff in my mouth......can you see where I'm coming from peeps ?? Is there an answer that won't leave him feeling rejected and me feeling guilty ?? But apart from all that, can anyone also tell me whether due to my yo-yo approach (which I know is bad) I have stopped Atkins from working for me, or if I really stick with it again will I see results as quickly as before ?? And many thanks for allowing me to come here and ask you these questions....all replies very much welcomed :) > Morning all, please can I join your group and hopefully have the long > termers good habits rub off on me down the wires ? :) [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > 10 stone ( I was 8.5 stone when I met hubby) I am now terrified and > disgusted with myself at 11 stone 6. <snip> > Please can some of you lovely people throw a few crumbs (Freudian > slip!!) of advice my way, or at least help me figure out why I keep > sabpotaging my efforts? I think only you can really figure that out but once you do that's half the battle won already. > My husband loves me just the way I am, and says if I looked fat he > would tell me - I do curvy all over so I'm lucky in that way, but [quoted text clipped - 14 lines] > mouth......can you see where I'm coming from peeps ?? Is there an > answer that won't leave him feeling rejected and me feeling guilty ?? I think it's time you sat him down for a heart to heart talk. It's up to you to set your own boundaries. Let him know that you ARE going to do this and that *he* has the choice to support you or not. You will no longer feel guilty if he chooses not to support your efforts to be healthier. Then do it. If he doesn't want to feel rejected there are plenty of gifts he can choose to give you that don't pertain to eating. It's his choice to make and you shouldn't feel guilty if he chooses to not respect your boundaries. > But apart from all that, can anyone also tell me whether due to my > yo-yo approach (which I know is bad) I have stopped Atkins from > working for me, or if I really stick with it again will I see results > as quickly as before ?? Whether you're going to see results as quickly as before is a total YYMV (your mileage may vary) thing. But as long as it works and you're healthier does it really matter if it works fast? I'm sure you've figured out by now that low carb is really a way of life not just a weight loss diet. While you won't always have to avoid carby foods you'll never be able to consume them as you once did unless you want the weight to return. > And many thanks for allowing me to come here and ask you these > questions....all replies very much welcomed :) Welcome to the low carb way of life!  SignatureJeri 265/189/120 Atkins since 11/5/01 "Whether you think you can or think you can't, you're right." --Henry Ford > > Morning all, please can I join your group and hopefully have the long > > termers good habits rub off on me down the wires ? :) [quoted text clipped - 59 lines] > > Welcome to the low carb way of life! Thanks for that :) I think actually writing it all down helped enormously - I did exactly what you suggested about an hour ago, and my husband has promised to try not to tempt me with edible love tokens.... And as you say, if I get seriously stuck in I suppose the proof of the pudding will be in the eating..... or not, hopefully ;) !! Vixen, Here are a couple pages where I put together my thoughts about going off the diet and getting back on and on what it takes to stay on-plan for the long term. http://www.geocities.com/jenny_the_bean/offplan.htm What happens when you crash off the diet and how to get back on. http://www.geocities.com/jenny_the_bean/diab-diet.htm Strategies that can help a person stay on the diet longterm. The page is written for people with diabetes, for whom carb control is a matter of life and death, but the ideas apply to anyone who wants to low carb long term. It takes a while longer to see results when you start up a low carb diet after a couple tries, but eventually it should start working again. Hang in there! -- Jenny - Low Carbing for 4 years. At goal for weight. Type 2 diabetes, hba1c 5.2. Cut the carbs to respond to my email address! Low carb facts and figures, my weight-loss photos, tips, recipes, strategies for dealing with diabetes and more at http://www.geocities.com/jenny_the_bean/ Looking for help controlling your blood sugar? Visit http://www.alt-support-diabetes.org/Newly%20Diagnosed.htm > Morning all, please can I join your group and hopefully have the long > termers good habits rub off on me down the wires ? :) [quoted text clipped - 49 lines] > And many thanks for allowing me to come here and ask you these > questions....all replies very much welcomed :) "Vixen" <vicci@f2s.com> wrote in message > My husband loves me just the way I am, and says if I looked fat he > would tell me - I do curvy all over so I'm lucky in that way, but [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > love chocolates etc this is his way of being affectionate. Is there an > answer that won't leave him feeling rejected and me feeling guilty ?? Wow... your husband sounds a lot like mine. If you figure this thing out - let me know! How long have you been married? In my first year of marriage, my husband lost 70 lbs and I gained 40. It was kind of a mingling of 2 very different lifestyles. His changed to be more healthy, and mine changed to be more unhealthy. The only way I could really get him to eat many vegetables is by mixing them into casseroles. So instead of having seperated parts to the meal, we'd have a lumpy pile of whatever meal we were having. He doesn't usually pick out his veggies, so this works. The treat thing... that's a tough one for me. I feel like I have enough willpower to avoid bad foods, but 99% of the bad foods that ever find their way into my home are bought by him - many of which he buys specifically to give to me. I told him I would rather he bring me flowers than food treats. He does get me flowers, but not as often as chocolates, etc. I often just take my chocolates or whatever to work and let my coworkers eat them instead of me. Anyhow - Good Luck to you. -- Spring LC since 1/1/04 250/239/170 Try asking your husband in a nice way not to bring you junk food as treats and gifts. Most likely, he just does not know better. i > Try asking your husband in a nice way not to bring you junk food as > treats and gifts. Most likely, he just does not know better. We've had this conversation many times in the past 4 yrs of being married. It works for about one week, maybe two. Then he goes back to getting junk food for me. One time, when I got really upset, he was good for an entire month or two. It was his idea to try low carb. He spent effort convincing me to look into it, and after I did I agreed that it sounded good. Then after a couple of days he was ready to quit. He hasn't completely quit yet, but he does cheat a lot. He's mostly been trying to talk me into quitting with him so we can both go back to the way we used to eat. I doubt he's concerned about his health. He never goes for checkups, and people in his family live until they are very very old. He's got great genes, I think. My family medical history is one complication after another... I'm mostly hoping that low carb will help stear me clear from getting diabetes, as I am already hypoglycemic. -- Spring LC since 1/1/04 250/239/170 >> My husband loves me just the way I am, and says if I looked fat he >> would tell me - I do curvy all over so I'm lucky in that way, but [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] >> love chocolates etc this is his way of being affectionate. Is there an >> answer that won't leave him feeling rejected and me feeling guilty ?? Tell him that if he loves you no matter what, that means he wants you to be happy. And that you are NOT happy with yourself in your current physical condition. So bringing you candy is basically saying "I don't give a damn about you" even if he doesn't realize it. Wow, this thread makes me SO grateful for my husband and all the support he's given me! LCing since 12/01/03- Me- 265/234/140 & hubby- 310/262/180 > >> My husband loves me just the way I am, and says if I looked fat he > >> would tell me - I do curvy all over so I'm lucky in that way, but [quoted text clipped - 24 lines] > Me- 265/234/140 > & hubby- 310/262/180 Maybe also you could suggest other ways for him to show you affection. Foot rubs are nice. If he HAS to do it with food, maybe he could bring you some gourmet cheeses? SignatureMichelle Levin http://www.mindspring.com/~lunachick I have only 3 flaws. My first flaw is thinking that I only have 3 flaws. How many pounds is a stone? > Morning all, please can I join your group and hopefully have the long > termers good habits rub off on me down the wires ? :) [quoted text clipped - 49 lines] > And many thanks for allowing me to come here and ask you these > questions....all replies very much welcomed :) > Please can some of you lovely people throw a few crumbs (Freudian > slip!!) of advice my way, or at least help me figure out why I keep > sabpotaging my efforts? Atkins is not a diet, so it is not something to quit. It goes on and on and it gets easier as time goes on. Don't quit, the simplist secret around. Atkins is not a diet and it has 4 phases. I bet you stayted in phase 1. Move on to phase 2 on schedule and it becomes less restrictive so falling off gets less tempting. Atkins is not a diet, it is a lifelong lifestyle. Lifestyles aren't perfect, and you won't be perfect on Atkins. It's no big deal since you moved onto phases 2+ anyways. If you try to make anything perfect any inperfection can be viewed as a failure and an excuse to quit, so don't target perfect once you've finished Induction. You've got to get very serious with your hubby and tell him that giving you fattening food does NOT make you happy, on the contrary, his failure to respect and support your needs makes you very sad. Give him a list of things he can get you that would be on your eating plan, such as some nice cheeses. Tell him that because you love him you want to be around for him for a long time and that continuing to gain weight will threaten that possibilty. Fix meals with a protein you can both eat, greens and other veggies for yourself (and your son, I hope he is not eating only potatoes like his father) and a potato for hubby. In news:5cef56b0.0401230232.17e50c@posting.google.com, Vixen <vicci@f2s.com> stated | Morning all, please can I join your group and hopefully have the long | termers good habits rub off on me down the wires ? :) [quoted text clipped - 49 lines] | And many thanks for allowing me to come here and ask you these | questions....all replies very much welcomed :) Well, thanks for the great responses - the pages were really useful that Jenny pointed me too, and it's helpful to know I'm not alone in the Husband department - my son is particularly fond of sprouts and broccoli so he does get a good balance, although getting him to eat regulalry is hard - I'm told most 9 year olds are the same and he's fit and growing so I try not to pass on my food issues to him. Coming on here has really helped - reading the posts etc helps me focus on the important things, and means if I log on and off a few tiomes a day it stops me doing other things, like looking in the cupboards...... reading posts is such a good distraction!! Anyway, as things crop up I'll be asking questions no doubt, but in the mean time best of luck to anyone else starting over and well done to the long term successes!! "FOB" <fob@fobmail.com> wrote in message news:<8ThQb.33424$P% 1.26249799@newssvr28.news.prodigy.com>... > You've got to get very serious with your hubby and tell him that giving you > fattening food does NOT make you happy, on the contrary, his failure to [quoted text clipped - 61 lines] > | And many thanks for allowing me to come here and ask you these > | questions....all replies very much welcomed :) |
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