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Weight Loss Forum / Low Carb / March 2004What's the most encouraging comment people have given you?
Apart from this group, as you've lost weight, has anything been said to you that has been particularly encouraging? I'd love to hear it... Maybe it was the person who said it, or what they said, etc... Mine was in January, when I walked into a school meeting and one of the parents said to me, "You've lost weight.....why?" (that part wasn't encouraging...I thought it was dumb)...but when I told her, "Because I wanted to." then she replied, "Piekny" which means beautiful. So, I took it to mean she thought I looked nice. That made me feel good. It isn't someone I knew very well. Another one was in the Post office when I went to mail something and a rather large lady who works there asked me how I lost so much. (I hadn't seen her for months either.) I told her "low carb"...only in Polish of course. She seemed so amazed. My family is used to seeing me, and since I see myself daily, it isn't "new news" to me....but when you see others not so often, their reactions are really neat, huh? Anyone have one they'd like to share. I'd love to hear it. I also like the Atkins site before/after pictures, too, BTW. Becky 199/145.5/135 5'1/2" www.family.solidrockpl.org That sig line is supposed to be 5'5.5" Becky I think I have several and to mee they are all great! It is really incouring and motivating to mee so here goes. I worked at the university with IT support as a student job. One lady stopped me in the hallway and said YOU HAVE LOST WEIGHT!!!! Yesterday I saw you in the cantina and had to turn over 3 times to assure it really was you. Then she asked how I did it and we talked about low carb and that I also did weighttraining and she said it really shows :-). I think comments from not that close people are the most motivating! do not know why but they are to mee. My dad and his family live in another country and of course their reaction is always very motivating but not as motivating as when someone at the work or friends of friends etc mentions the progress.. By now I am down 73 lbs and feels wonderfull and sometimes look forward to see people that I havent seen for a longer period just to get their reaction :-). Sometimes I do think that people comment this way because they really thought that the before look were bad. Nothing I can do about it other than appreciate that I am on the right track :-) Low carb RULEZ! Take care everyone you are doing a great job Steffen > Apart from this group, as you've lost weight, has anything been said to you that has been particularly encouraging? > I'd love to hear it... Maybe it was the person who said it, or what they said, etc... > > Mine was in January, when I walked into a school meeting and one of the parents said to me, "You've lost weight.....why?" (that part wasn't encouraging...I thought it was dumb)...but when I told her, "Because I wanted to." then she replied, "Piekny" which means beautiful. So, I took it to mean she thought I looked nice. That made me feel good. It isn't someone I knew very well. > Another one was in the Post office when I went to mail something and a rather large lady who works there asked me how I lost so much. (I hadn't seen her for months either.) I told her "low carb"...only in Polish of course. She seemed so amazed. My family is used to seeing me, and since I see myself daily, it isn't "new news" to me....but when you see others not so often, their reactions are really neat, huh? > Anyone have one they'd like to share. I'd love to hear it. I also like the Atkins site before/after pictures, too, BTW. > > Becky > 199/145.5/135 5'1/2" > www.family.solidrockpl.org 42 pounds down and I got my FIRST compliment last week. It was somebody I hadn't seen in a year, and she was gushing about how great I looked. Not "have you lost weight?" but "You've lost weight!" I guess people that see you every day don't notice as much. My husband says that if I would tell people I'm on a diet and losing weight, they would say something. I can't imagine anything that would make me more uncomfortable. LCing since 12/01/03- Me- 265/223/140 & hubby- 310/244/180 > 42 pounds down and I got my FIRST compliment last week. It was somebody I > hadn't seen in a year, and she was gushing about how great I looked. Not "have > you lost weight?" but "You've lost weight!" I guess people that see you every > day don't notice as much. My husband says that if I would tell people I'm on a > diet and losing weight, they would say something. I can't imagine anything that > would make me more uncomfortable. Ugh, I agree. It isn't anyone's business as far as I am concerned. If you tell people on your diet, it becomes a public event where they inspect your meal, ask questions about what you are eating, criticize your choices - "is *that* on your diet?" - and on and on. Every day at work I hit the salad bar and put together a big salad with one or more of lettuce, broccoli, chicken, eggs, cucumber, string beans, peppers, olives, and sunflower seeds. I occasionally get a "that looks healthy!" comment, and I just mumble something like "well, I try." I don't want to have big state discussions about what I eat. Folks have talked about "pressure" from people to try sweets that are passed around the office - I guess I'm fortunate because I haven't experienced this. I just say "no thanks." Occasionally I get "are you sure? It's really good" in response, but "I'm sure, thanks" seems to be all I need. No one is holding me down and stuffing cake into my mouth at work. Back on the topic, though, I think you are right that you will get more of a reaction from people who do not see you every day. Maybe I can count on my mom for that, I only see her about once a month. Of course, at my current rate, there won't be any change for her to see ... carla > Apart from this group, as you've lost weight, has anything been said to you that has been particularly encouraging? > I'd love to hear it... Maybe it was the person who said it, or what they said, etc... Just yesterday, actually. I was talking to a male co-worker, and he said, "by the way...you really are looking very good. Rather dangerous, in fact...". That sounds writing it down like it was a smarmy comment, but it really wasn't - you'd just have to know the person, I guess. He wasn't leering at me when he said it, nor hitting on me in any way, just commenting that strictly from his perspective, the male population at large could be in trouble if I decide to get out and play, <g>. I hardly think I'm 'all that' when it comes to looks myself (just average, IMO - neither in danger of being mistaken for a supermodel nor of having a date bring along a bag, LOL), but it was nice to hear anyway - especially from someone who knew me from before I started. Another good comment was from a stranger, who saw my 'before' pic at my desk and said, "Is that your sister?". Other than that, I get comments from female co-workers on a regular basis and that has been very motivating along the way. Things like "you're getting so skinny, you make me sick...", (said with a smile, not in a snarky way) etc. Some of them have been inspired to start LC by seeing what it's done for me, but so far none have been successful at sticking with it (unfortunately. I'd love for everyone I know to be as successful as I've been, but they've got to want it for themselves as badly as I did). Stargazer Atkins since Apr '03 192/148/140 > Apart from this group, as you've lost weight, has anything been said to you that has been particularly encouraging? > I'd love to hear it... Maybe it was the person who said it, or what they said, etc... > > Mine was in January, when I walked into a school meeting and one of the parents said to me, "You've lost weight.....why?" (that part wasn't encouraging...I thought it was dumb)...but when I told her, "Because I wanted to." then she replied, "Piekny" which means beautiful. So, I took it to mean she thought I looked nice. That made me feel good. It isn't someone I knew very well. > Another one was in the Post office when I went to mail something and a rather large lady who works there asked me how I lost so much. (I hadn't seen her for months either.) I told her "low carb"...only in Polish of course. She seemed so amazed. My family is used to seeing me, and since I see myself daily, it isn't "new news" to me....but when you see others not so often, their reactions are really neat, huh? Those are nice stories. What is the cultural attitude toward body size in Poland? And is obesity the same endemic problem as it is in the US? I don't have any such stories. Though I have lost 25 lbs since the beginning of December, it really barely shows. Some of my clothes fit a little more loosely but no one who isn't wearing them is going to notice that. There is something about the way I carry my weight - no one ever believes me when I tell them what I weigh, and the corollary of that is that I have to lose more than others before it really shows. I had a diet conversation recently, during lunch with a partner I work with, which started when she told me she was "doing Atkins." (Of course, she told me this while she was eating a burrito stuffed with rice, so she either wasn't very committed or was somewhat unclear on the concept.) She claimed to see a difference but that was only after I told her I'd lost weight. Then I told her I had at least 60 more to go and she absolutely wouldn't believe me. carla > I don't have any such stories. Though I have lost 25 lbs since the > beginning of December, it really barely shows. Carla, That mirrors my own experiences. I believe I was down 30+ pounds before I had the first comments even asking if I had lost weight. But, by that time, I had started seeing, for myself, significant changes in how I felt physically and emotionally, and this was more than enough to keep me going. At one point I lamented to my wife how frustrating it was to lose 30 pounds and not even be able to tell (from the outside that is.) This has certainly changed since then, I get many comments now. And lots of questions about how. Don't let it get you down. You are doing wonderfully, keep it up.  SignatureJJ. > That mirrors my own experiences. I believe I was down 30+ > pounds before I had the first comments even asking if I had [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > Don't let it get you down. You are doing wonderfully, keep > it up. Thanks JJ, and also thanks to Becky for encouraging comments along the same lines. It can be frustrating at times to see so little change in my appearance and then come here and read postings like "I've only lost a quarter of an ounce on the scale, but my waist has shrunk by 37 inches!" Okay, I am exaggerating just a bit, but there is definitely something about the way I carry my weight that just makes the outward manifestation of the loss a little ... subtle. carla Carla said: Those are nice stories. What is the cultural attitude toward body size in Poland? And is obesity the same endemic problem as it is in the US? Becky replies: I really haven't discussed body size with anyone...just that they really don't sell "big stuff" here. Even finding a ladies size 10 shoe is a big problem. 9 1/2 is the biggest I can find normally. I just know I felt "huge" because the other moms in those class meetings were almost "all" smaller than I was. While most of the "grandma" types are a bit plump, and not sleek and slim, there are very few very "obese" people here. There were almost no fat kids when we first came. In fact, that was what I noticed when we went back to the states in '99--lots and lots of fat kids. Now, however, I'm starting to notice more fat children. Overall, I'd say that people walk here more simply because of the common usage of public transportation. If you want to wear clothes, you need to be maximum size 14 or so, if you hope to find a choice. Since they seem to make most of the clothes for "sticks", it is difficult to find something for a woman who isn't a stick. :) I am seeing magazines now, more and more, with articles on dieting, etc. I'd say that most of the heavier women here are older than 60. That is why I felt like I MUST lose weight. I was too young to be so big. I had to lose about 20 lbs, before anyone noticed, if it is any consolation. Then, I have a piggy bank (literally...a Little Tikes kid's bank) where I started saving a certain amount (5 zl---about $1.25) if I got a complement from someone who knew I was trying to lose weight, and 10 zl (about $2.50) if I got a complement from someone who didn't know I was trying to lose weight.) That money has gone towards "new" (to me) clothes. It was a great boost to put something in...esp. by the people that didn't know I was on a diet. I also am the kind of person who carries a lot of weight on her hips and if I wear a skirt, people have no clue that I really weigh what I do. I've wondered how well a weight guesser at the fair would do with someone like me, but never had the courage to try it. :) Keep it up and my guess is that another few pounds and people will start saying, "Are you losing weight?" Becky P. 199/145.5/135 www.family.solidrockpl.org > > Apart from this group, as you've lost weight, has anything been said to > you that has been particularly encouraging? [quoted text clipped - 34 lines] > > carla That is exactly my story. No one would ever believe that I weighed 250 lbs., which I did for a while post-pregnancy. When I tell people that I want to lose about 75 pounds, they gasp and tell me I'm crazy. They say there's no way I have that much to lose. Uh, guess again. That's what I get for being tall and well-proportioned I guess. My goal weight will be my all-time, adult low and I'm looking forward to it! -- AmyB LC since 12/01/03 238/211/165 Now that people are used to me at this weight, I do seem to get more complements. The two best ones were, "wow, you have lost a lot of weight, you look great" and At volleyball last night, someone said "now that you are ripped....". I am really not ripped, but getting there. Enjoy, Curt SignatureStarted low carb May '03 211/183/180 . . 6'2" 15.78% BF Age 38 Highest weight 250 5+ years ago > Apart from this group, as you've lost weight, has anything been said to you that has been particularly encouraging? > I'd love to hear it... Maybe it was the person who said it, or what they said, etc... > > Mine was in January, when I walked into a school meeting and one of the parents said to me, "You've lost weight.....why?" (that part wasn't encouraging...I thought it was dumb)...but when I told her, "Because I wanted to." then she replied, "Piekny" which means beautiful. So, I took it to mean she thought I looked nice. That made me feel good. It isn't someone I knew very well. > Another one was in the Post office when I went to mail something and a rather large lady who works there asked me how I lost so much. (I hadn't seen her for months either.) I told her "low carb"...only in Polish of course. She seemed so amazed. My family is used to seeing me, and since I see myself daily, it isn't "new news" to me....but when you see others not so often, their reactions are really neat, huh? > Anyone have one they'd like to share. I'd love to hear it. I also like the Atkins site before/after pictures, too, BTW. > > Becky > 199/145.5/135 5'1/2" > www.family.solidrockpl.org > Apart from this group, as you've lost weight, has anything been said > to you that has been particularly encouraging? > I'd love to hear it... Maybe it was the person who said it, or what > they said, etc... Of late, the most gratifying things I have had happen have been conversations with others in my own age group, whom I have always viewed as slender and fit, commenting on how good I now look and asking if I thought they might be able to lose weight this way too. Yesterday we had an account manager return to my company who had left about a year ago. He knows me quite well but had not seen me since I started this WOE. As he did not see me daily (or at all in the last year), as do most of my other friends and acquaintances, the impact was as extreme as it could get. His complements made me feel very good. Finally, one event that felt good and made me quite angry at the same time; I was standing in line to purchase an item at the store and a slender stranger next to me, as he observed people walking through the store, said "can you believe all these fat people." The statement was presented in quite a derogatory fashion. On one hand it felt good to not be considered one of the fat people, but at the same time I know that I am one of these fat people. I never liked the ridicule (or my perception of ridicule) when I was very overweight, my tolerance for it now when I hear it directed at others is zero. SignatureJJ. 275/192/183, BMI 27.5 - as of Mar 5, 2004 Atkins since Sep 1, 2003 http://f2.pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/jjsmythe/my_photos 69.8% of the man I used to be. > Finally, one event that felt good and made me quite angry at > the same time; I was standing in line to purchase an item at [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > overweight, my tolerance for it now when I hear it directed > at others is zero. JJ, I hope you won't mind if I start another thread based upon the thoughts you have expressed here. carla >> Finally, one event that felt good and made me quite angry at >> the same time; I was standing in line to purchase an item at [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > > carla Thank you for asking. No, I don't mind at all. There are a few things I am passionate about...this is one of them. It doesn't merely apply to weight problems. SignatureJJ. >Apart from this group, as you've lost weight, has anything been said to you that has been particularly encouraging? >I'd love to hear it... Maybe it was the person who said it, or what they said, etc... [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] >199/145.5/135 5'1/2" >www.family.solidrockpl.org My favorite: "You look emaciated. You're not eating enough." PJ One of my coworkers has recently started calling me "Bones"!. I am far from thin as I still want to lose another 40 pounds or so, but I really like the new nickname. > >Apart from this group, as you've lost weight, has anything been said to you that has been particularly encouraging? > >I'd love to hear it... Maybe it was the person who said it, or what they said, etc... > > > >Mine was in January, when I walked into a school meeting and one of the parents said to me, "You've lost weight.....why?" (that part wasn't encouraging...I thought it was dumb)...but when I told her, "Because I wanted to." then she replied, "Piekny" which means beautiful. So, I took it to mean she thought I looked nice. That made me feel good. It isn't someone I knew very well. > >Another one was in the Post office when I went to mail something and a rather large lady who works there asked me how I lost so much. (I hadn't seen her for months either.) I told her "low carb"...only in Polish of course. She seemed so amazed. My family is used to seeing me, and since I see myself daily, it isn't "new news" to me....but when you see others not so often, their reactions are really neat, huh? > >Anyone have one they'd like to share. I'd love to hear it. I also like the Atkins site before/after pictures, too, BTW. > > [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > > PJ In article <ef441245daffdaa85a46f1e9a4f7f04f@localhost.talkaboutsupport.com>, > Apart from this group, as you've lost weight, has anything been said to you > that has been particularly encouraging? [quoted text clipped - 21 lines] > 199/145.5/135 5'1/2" > www.family.solidrockpl.org My dad said he was proud of me one day, out of the blue. I said "for what?" And he said "For your new outlook on life, for how well you're taking care of yourself now." SignatureMichelle Levin http://www.mindspring.com/~lunachick I have only 3 flaws. My first flaw is thinking that I only have 3 flaws. :: My dad said he was proud of me one day, out of the blue. I said "for :: what?" And he said "For your new outlook on life, for how well :: you're :: taking care of yourself now." I'm proud of you too. And I don't even know you in RL.... > :: My dad said he was proud of me one day, out of the blue. I said "for > :: what?" And he said "For your new outlook on life, for how well > :: you're > :: taking care of yourself now." > > I'm proud of you too. And I don't even know you in RL.... Awww. *blushes* SignatureMichelle Levin http://www.mindspring.com/~lunachick I have only 3 flaws. My first flaw is thinking that I only have 3 flaws. "curious" wrote in message... <snipped> > Apart from this group, as you've lost weight, has anything been said to you that has been particularly encouraging? 1) Two of my uncles, who are losing weight on a modified version of the GI diet, both commented about my weight loss when I saw them last. That was the first time somebody really said anything to me (about my weight loss). 2) One of my sister's friends made a few comments that I won't repeat in mixed company... All I'll say is that they put a smile on my face. 3) My chef-instructor, and my former-classmates, at our graduation dinner. I hadn't seen them in months, so they really noticed. It even motivated my chef-instructor to get on Atkins (last I heard she was on day 6 or 7 and had lost eight pounds). There are a few more incidents that I have noticed - but nothing to write about or nothing that I want to share. SignatureBryan 282/238/210 (New Goal Weight) (Finally got out of a two week stall!) LC since Oct. 26/03 > Apart from this group, as you've lost weight, has anything been said to you that has been particularly encouraging? > I'd love to hear it... Maybe it was the person who said it, or what they said, etc... The best was from my son, who got upset with me because he felt my sweater was too tight. "Just because you're a babe now," he said, "you still have to dress like a Mom." Duffy 182/124 since 12-01-01 >> Apart from this group, as you've lost weight, has anything been said to >> you that has been particularly encouraging? [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > 182/124 > since 12-01-01 Ask him if his friends think you're a MILF. ;-) SignatureBob in CT Remove ".x" to reply > Ask him if his friends think you're a... Whoosh! Into the gutter we go ;-) SignatureJJ. > > Apart from this group, as you've lost weight, has anything been said to you > > that has been particularly encouraging? [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > 182/124 > since 12-01-01 LOL! SignatureMichelle Levin http://www.mindspring.com/~lunachick I have only 3 flaws. My first flaw is thinking that I only have 3 flaws. >The best was from my son, who got upset with me because he felt my >sweater was too tight. "Just because you're a babe now," he said, "you >still have to dress like a Mom." LOL! :-) The best comment i ever got was when i called to cancel my "Casual Big & Tall" credit card. The guy told me it was so unusual for people to close their account, and they would be willing to go out of their way for me to keep my business with them, and started offering stuff to me, lower interest rates, haigher limit etc. I told him, if they did 2 things, i would leave my account open. and he very anxiously replied, "what would you like sir?" I told him i had lost over 170lbs since opening that account, but if they would start carrying Large size shirts, and pants with a 36" waist i would gladly keep the account open(I used to wear xxxl, and a 58" waist). He paused for a second, and then said, "My God, that's 20lbs more than i even weigh!.....congradulations, and you can consider this account CLOSED!" Then he politely told me, "well....keep up in mind if you ever need hankerchiefs, or socks, we'd love to help you out!. > The best comment i ever got was when i called to cancel my "Casual Big > & Tall" credit card. The guy told me it was so unusual for people to [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > second, and then said, "My God, that's 20lbs more than i even > weigh!.....congradulations, and you can consider this account CLOSED!" What a GREAT phone call! SignatureSaffire 205/168/125 - 5'2.5" Atkins since 6/14/03 Progress photo: http://photos.yahoo.com/saffire333 > Apart from this group, as you've lost weight, has anything been said to you that has been particularly encouraging? > I'd love to hear it... Maybe it was the person who said it, or what they said, etc... Mine was from a coworker that I've known for about 25 years (male). He and DH played softball together about 24 years ago, our kids are the same age and we've been "growing old" together. In fact, he was one of the people who got me thinking about this WOE (had been Somersizing with minimal results) last year when he asked if I was feeling okay and what was with the weight . I wasn't hurt by his comment, he is a physician and I could see real concern in his eyes when we spoke.At that time I weighed almost 20 pounds more than I did at the peak of my pregnancy. A couple of weeks ago I walked out of the locker room dressed to go to the gym after work and he was at the control desk. He turned, looked at me and with a big smile said, "man, it's criminal what you've been hiding under those scrubs".. Yee Haw!! Sas 157/138/130 (highest weight was 164) 5' 4" lc since 9/12/03 Opinions of others don't matter... :) Of course it does. > Apart from this group, as you've lost weight, has anything been said to you that has been particularly encouraging? > I'd love to hear it... Maybe it was the person who said it, or what they said, etc... > > Mine was in January, when I walked into a school meeting and one of the parents said to me, "You've lost weight.....why?" (that part wasn't encouraging...I thought it was dumb)...but when I told her, "Because I wanted to." then she replied, "Piekny" which means beautiful. So, I took it to mean she thought I looked nice. That made me feel good. It isn't someone I knew very well. > > Another one was in the Post office when I went to mail something and a rather large lady who works there asked me how I lost so much. (I hadn't seen her for months either.) I told her "low carb"...only in Polish of course. She seemed so amazed. My family is used to seeing me, and since I see myself daily, it isn't "new news" to me....but when you see others not so often, their reactions are really neat, huh? > Anyone have one they'd like to share. I'd love to hear it. I also like the Atkins site before/after pictures, too, BTW. > > Becky > 199/145.5/135 5'1/2" > www.family.solidrockpl.org > Opinions of others don't matter... :) Of course it does. > [quoted text clipped - 16 lines] > > 199/145.5/135 5'1/2" > > www.family.solidrockpl.org I met up with a friend, old classmate. We went to a vocational school around 2 years ago. I recognized her, had on a nametag, was at a convention at the time. I said hi to her, by her name. She said she did not recognize me, had to look at my nametag in order to remember. She said I look different in the face. More narrow jaws, not so much fat along the jaw. My clothes are loose too, and she mentioned that. Then I had my hair cut, from a long heavy haircut, to a short and carefree one. She was the first to say something nice like this. She noticed the self confidence I have now also. It does help when others notice. It makes you feel good. Why not feel good? I've had a few comments made that really made my day. Recently my hubby took me out to eat at the new Texas Steakhouse here in Wake Forest NC. I've been dying to go there but it's a bit pricey, with the wedding money is kinda tight. But Chuck took me out as a reward for my weight loss. The meal was absolutely delicious by the way. Well, Chuck went to use the bathroom and our waiter came over and stood by my side. I thought he was just going to ask if I wanted a refill on my diet coke or something. But he starts asking if the man I am with is my husband. Ah, yes he is, we've been married for 22 years. The man stood there flirting with me until he saw hubby round the bend and walking back to the table. What a boost to a gal's ego! At 270 the only flirting that I got was from 90 year old men with very poor vision! LOL The other comment that sticks in my mind came from a good friend's husband. I went over with my flavored water in tow, sat down in their livingroom and started chatting. Tommy didn't say a word for ten minutes but I noticed he kept looking at me and shaking his head. Finally I asked what the hell his problem was. He said, "Girl, I just want to tell you that you look awesome. It use to be that I was afraid your fat butt wouldn't make it through a doorway. I'm so proud of you." I guess you would have to know Tommy, we have this love/hate relationship. But it sure made me feel good that he noticed and commented on my weight loss. He also commented to my friend, his wife, that if she lost the weight that I have that she could be one hot mama too! LOL Monday hubby and I went down to the new Lowes in our little town. We are planning on remodeling our one bathroom and going to install a whirlpool bath. There isn't any better stress reliever than a nice long hot bubble bath for me. We stood looking at the various models of whirlpool baths on display. The first one looked like some kinda whirlpool for Twiggy. It was so narrow it wasn't even funny. The other tubs that they had on display got a little wider and wider. I commented that I would definitely need the WIDE tub to get my fat butt in. Hubby said, "Are you kidding? The way you're melting away that little tub would be fine. But it might be nice to have the big tub so we can share bubble baths." LOL Ooooh lala! SignatureKelly 270/213.5/3.5 lbs for March/Goal Weight 140 44 inches Start Date: April 21, 2003 March Challenge Weight: 210 > Monday hubby and I went down to the new Lowes in our little town. We are > planning on remodeling our one bathroom and going to install a whirlpool [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > melting away that little tub would be fine. But it might be nice to have > the big tub so we can share bubble baths." LOL Ooooh lala! Is there any bath where two people can fit comfortably? I thought that there is no such thing. In our house, we have a hot tub (spa). i >> Monday hubby and I went down to the new Lowes in our little town. We >> are [quoted text clipped - 21 lines] > > i I used to squeeze in a regular bath with me ex. We were very comfortable. (Don't know that I could do that now, however.) SignatureBob in CT Remove ".x" to reply > Is there any bath where two people can fit comfortably? I thought that > there is no such thing. > > In our house, we have a hot tub (spa). > > i I don't know but it sure will be fun trying! LOL Kelly > > display. The first one looked like some kinda whirlpool for Twiggy. It was > > so narrow it wasn't even funny. The other tubs that they had on display got > > a little wider and wider. I commented that I would definitely need the WIDE > > tub to get my fat butt in. I think that's why I almost never have a bath - as well as being big and wide, I'm very tall so it's impossible to get comfortable or get any significant proportion of myself wet in a bath. My partner's in much the same situation - he's even taller. > Is there any bath where two people can fit comfortably? I thought that > there is no such thing. > In our house, we have a hot tub (spa). I have seen those 'spa bath' things that are kinda figure of 8 shaped, very wide and deep though, they would probably work okay. If we can ever afford to remodel our bathroom I want something like that - if we can't afford one then we may as well not bother putting in a new bath as we'll never use it. As long as the shower box is good and big (nothing worse than constantly whacking your elbows on the sides or skinning your butt on the tap) and has something for me to stick my foot on when I shave my legs :o) Rachel (New Zealand) > > Opinions of others don't matter... :) Of course it does. > > [quoted text clipped - 29 lines] > It does help when others notice. It makes you feel good. Why not feel > good? I don't have anyting agains feeling good. It's just that everybody says that they don't care what people think of them. A lot of them are just liars. > I don't have anyting agains feeling good. It's just that everybody > says that they don't care what people think of them. A lot of them are > just liars. Yep, got that right. I think most people do care what others think of them. I do. Its hard for people to be honest and real about it? Why? > > I don't have anyting agains feeling good. It's just that everybody > > says that they don't care what people think of them. A lot of them are > > just liars. > > Yep, got that right. I think most people do care what others think of > them. I do. Its hard for people to be honest and real about it? Why? I both care and don't care what people think of me. I care - too much - but I don't WANT to care. Because I shouldn't care. Nor should anyone else. I should care what people think of me regarding WHO I am, not what I look like. There is a difference. what is the most encouraging comment anyone's given me? No comment - but the look of dismay on my previous boss' face when he saw me this Tuesday, and realized that he was wrong - that being fat isn't a moral failing, but is about finding the right "key" to the problem. It was so nice to see him running away as other people approached me and were friendly - because this was one sick turkey who couldn't separate what i looked like (both weight-wise, and my rather funky, uneven face and psoriasis issues) from who I was, and therefore treated me as if I was sub-human a good deal of the time. Too bad his board hired me around him - it never did make him happy that I wasn't just competent but that I was insightful as well. Ah well - can't please everyone. SignatureNancy Howells (don't forget to switch it, and replace the ;) to send mail). I'm sure you're a flippin' genius. Too bad you can't figure out how to lose weight. Get insightful on that. SignatureMost of us probably aren't in danger of eating too little. :) Becky P. > > > I don't have anyting agains feeling good. It's just that everybody > > > says that they don't care what people think of them. A lot of them are [quoted text clipped - 24 lines] > > Ah well - can't please everyone. Nancy Howells burbled across the ether: >>> I don't have anyting agains feeling good. It's just that everybody >>> says that they don't care what people think of them. A lot of them [quoted text clipped - 14 lines] > Tuesday, and realized that he was wrong - that being fat isn't a moral > failing, but is about finding the right "key" to the problem. Hehe. Any good gossip on the twit? > It was so nice to see him running away as other people approached me > and were friendly - because this was one sick turkey who couldn't [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > > Ah well - can't please everyone. I have gotta ask--- did he ever get that arrow out of his foot? The one he shot himself with the day you quit? Or is someone else covering up his stupidity these days? (Too bad if so. Perhaps you should send a care basket around to the poor sod-- anti-stress things like soothing music and bath beads, lol.) Signaturerevek www.geocities.com/tanirevek/LowCarb.html lowcarbing since June 2002 5'2" 41 F 165+/too much/size seven petite please "Jack sh.t? Yes, I know him. He lives next door." > It's just that everybody >says that they don't care what people think of them. A lot of them are >just liars. Ah, some of us admit it. In fact, I confess that I've always cared TOO much what people think of me. Denying it is sort of pointless. Dawn >> It's just that everybody >> says that they don't care what people think of them. A lot of them are [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > > Dawn It's just important that you don't think too much about it. Of course, you care what your significant other thinks about you; but do you care what Joe Blow (or Mu) does? SignatureBob in CT Remove ".x" to reply I used to care a lot more what people thought back then, than now when I'm pushing 60. Growing older does have some advantages, and if you have a silly outfit on or something, people just think you're eccentric. :-) -- Cheri Type 2, no meds for now. Bob in CT wrote in message ... >It's just important that you don't think too much about it. Of course, >you care what your significant other thinks about you; but do you care [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] >Bob in CT >Remove ".x" to reply Bob in CT burbled across the ether: >>> It's just that everybody >>> says that they don't care what people think of them. A lot of them [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > course, you care what your significant other thinks about you; but do > you care what Joe Blow (or Mu) does? Depends on whether I've posted a real zinger off of them or not. Why yes I do have my replies to my posts watched, why do you ask? <EG> Signaturerevek www.geocities.com/tanirevek/LowCarb.html lowcarbing since June 2002 5'2" 41 F 165+/too much/size seven petite please Look, the US is simply bigger, which means there's more of everything, including more morons. And because the morons shout, they tend to drown out the intelligent people, which the USA also has more of. Unless you believe the Hubble telescope was built by the audience of the Ricky Lake show, that is. {Terry Prattchet Isis Publishing interview, Apr.-Jun., 2000} >> Ah, some of us admit it. In fact, I confess that I've always cared TOO >> much what people think of me. Denying it is sort of pointless. > >It's just important that you don't think too much about it. Of course, >you care what your significant other thinks about you; but do you care >what Joe Blow (or Mu) does? I care about what the people I respect think of me. Mu, the idiots in the gay marriage thread ... not so much. Dawn I think I care what people think of me with regard to certain traits but not others and I care if they perceive me accurately. If they think I am fat they are just making a factual observation. If that disgusts them that is their problem, not mine. If they assume I am fat because I am lazy they are also correct, I will admit I am lazy. But, if they think I am dishonest, then I would be distressed because it would be a misperception, as I always try to be truthful and fair. I had one online experience where a person got me confused with someone else and found it rather distressing. I will own my own faults but not someone else's. I have always heard other fat people talk about the disgusted looks they get from people, Nancy mentioned it today in another thread. I have never been aware of receiving such looks and have never figured out why. Maybe it's because I am not expecting that from others. I was a thin child, got fat later in life so I think I come from a different perception of myself. I still think I see myself as basically a thin person. Before I retired I frequently got compliments on my outfits--I love and wear colorful clothes and jewelry--and much of that time I weighed in around 300 pounds. I was good at my job and felt that people respected my opinion so I'm sure I projected an air of confidence and the belief that I am a worthwhile person. I believe that projecting a feeling of inferiority attracts negative attention. In news:m93750l0e9q7d1g8uif2eutqil14alf2gm@4ax.com, Dawn Taylor <dawnetta@pacifier.com> stated | I care about what the people I respect think of me. Mu, the idiots in | the gay marriage thread ... not so much. | | Dawn >I think I care what people think of me with regard to certain traits but not >others and I care if they perceive me accurately. If they think I am fat [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] >I believe that projecting a feeling of inferiority attracts negative >attention. That's the key. Hold your head up high. Those who judge only on a persons's exterior, are not worth knowing. Losing weight is the best thing you can do for yourself medically. The hell with everything else. Sleepy --------------------------------- The True Axis of Evil Bush - Cheney - Ashcroft - Rumsfeld --------------------------------- >>> Ah, some of us admit it. In fact, I confess that I've always cared TOO >>> much what people think of me. Denying it is sort of pointless. [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > >Dawn If you thought so little of the "idiots in the gay marriage thread" why did you contribute so many crossposted messages to it? Sleepy --------------------------------- The True Axis of Evil Bush - Cheney - Ashcroft - Rumsfeld --------------------------------- >>I care about what the people I respect think of me. Mu, the idiots in >>the gay marriage thread ... not so much. [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] >If you thought so little of the "idiots in the gay marriage thread" >why did you contribute so many crossposted messages to it? Because I have a hard time letting bigots and ignorant blowhards blather on without consequence when they're both wrong and hurtful. It's my biggest flaw. You really don't want to drag this conversation into this thread, do you? Me, I'm waaaay done with it. Dawn >>>I care about what the people I respect think of me. Mu, the idiots in >>>the gay marriage thread ... not so much. [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > >Dawn Agreed as to being done with it. Unusual for me, but I didn't make a lot of posts to that thread. The only reason I got in it at all was I can't stomach fundie crackpots. Sleepy --------------------------------- The True Axis of Evil Bush - Cheney - Ashcroft - Rumsfeld --------------------------------- Sleepyman burbled across the ether: > Agreed as to being done with it. Unusual for me, but I didn't make a > lot of posts to that thread. The only reason I got in it at all was I > can't stomach fundie crackpots. > > Sleepy A redeeming feature. There may be hope for you yet. :) NB: this does not mean that I am against people who spend time on the big questions, search for answers, need spirituality in their lives, feel religious. I am against extremism. And *organized* religion leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Signaturerevek www.geocities.com/tanirevek/LowCarb.html lowcarbing since June 2002 5'2" 41 F 165+/too much/size seven petite please Some people have a way with words, while others... erm... thingy. <snip> > And *organized* religion > leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Ketosis? :) bidkev burbled across the ether: > <snip> >> And *organized* religion >> leaves a bad taste in my mouth. > > Ketosis? :) LOL. Something like that. ;) Signaturerevek www.geocities.com/tanirevek/LowCarb.html lowcarbing since June 2002 5'2" 41 F 165+/too much/size seven petite please Good engineering is simply finding the right wrench to pound in the correct screw. >Sleepyman burbled across the ether: >> Agreed as to being done with it. Unusual for me, but I didn't make a [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] >feel religious. I am against extremism. And *organized* religion >leaves a bad taste in my mouth. And I am against extreme diets. Your Pal, Sleepy --------------------------------- The True Axis of Evil Bush - Cheney - Ashcroft - Rumsfeld --------------------------------- > And I am against extreme diets. So is anybody with any sense. -- revek Just because you have a mind like a hammer doesn't mean you should treat everyone else like a nail - Terry Pratchett, Only You Can Save Mankind "Denis Morissette" <mikesmith9999@hotmail.com> wrote in message > I don't have anyting agains feeling good. It's just that everybody > says that they don't care what people think of them. A lot of them are > just liars. I don't think I'm a liar when I say that, <g>. But I also don't mean that I don't care what 'anyone' thinks - it's that I don't care what anyone that I am not also looking for something in return from, thinks. What I mean by 'something in return' is anything from a job (I do care what my boss thinks, or what an interviewer thinks), to emotional bonds (my friends, my family, a partner), to validation of my thoughts or actions by people whose opinions I respect. However, what a total stranger on the street thinks of me (in any capacity - physical, mental or emotional) doesn't phase me and never has. I don't want or need anything in return from them, so what they think about me doesn't matter to me. I think that's probably what most people mean when they say they don't care what 'people' think of them. I would say that most people *do* care what _some_ people in their lives think of them. That doesn't mean they agree with or follow every suggestion/thought or piece of advice given by those people, it just means that they'll take it under closer advisement than they would similar advice from someone they don't care about. Stargazer Atkins since Apr '03 192/147/140 my co-workers heel saying "hi, skinny", even though I have far to go! > Apart from this group, as you've lost weight, has anything been said to you that has been particularly encouraging? > I'd love to hear it... Maybe it was the person who said it, or what they said, etc... Well, before I started, some people started laughing and said "Hehe, you are finally getting chubby there, eh, mate" (the finally is because they've always been jealous that I could eat so much as I did, like 1 serving size of icecream was one liter, and serving size of cake was a 8 inch 3 layer cake with whipped cream and marzipan). Then when I had been on LC on 4-5 months, people (those who were happy I was chubby, and was still chubby themselves) started saying "aren't you going to be fattened up again soon? Your face looks emaciated". My path can be seen here: http://www.cvmt.dk/~mnielsen/lowcarb |
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