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Weight Loss Forum / Low Carb / March 2004candy
My inner WFFID has had the advantage recently. I have managed to avoid much overeating and bad eating by controlling what I have around me. I bring low-carb snacks to work so that I don't need to hit the vending machine. I count calories carefully. I've had some success. But there's a secretary in my office, one who sits right next to my secretary, who keeps a public candy bowl on the top of her bay. I walk by it a thousand times a day. Every time I go to the bathroom, refill my water bottle, go to the cafeteria, go to a meeting on another floor, go to the supply closet or copy room, I walk by it - once on the way there, once on the way back. I have no trouble staying out of it all day long, but when I am working late, it gets harder and harder to keep my mitts out of it. Last night I was at the office past 11:00pm, and I hit the stupid candy bowl ... not just once either, and not for the first time. The scale hasn't really budged for me in over two weeks, and I know the reason, which is why I haven't been complaining about it. Now I am not complaining, but crying for help. Will someone please help me kick my inner WFFID's a.s to the curb? Some resonating rhetoric might echo in my head when my hand heads for the bowl, and help me with this raw exercise of will. carla When is the last time you looked at yourself naked in the mirror? Do you look good to yourself?  SignatureMost of us probably aren't in danger of eating too little. :) Becky P. > My inner WFFID has had the advantage recently. > [quoted text clipped - 21 lines] > > carla > When is the last time you looked at yourself naked in the mirror? Do you > look good to yourself? *sigh* I take a long hard look every day - I'm very vain that way - and no, I don't like the way I look.(*) I can't strip down and use that strategy in the office (well, not if I want to keep my job, anyhow), but I'll try to carry the mental image with me. (*) To add some precision to that statement, I don't like the way I look, but I like the small improvements I'm seeing, and that too should be an incentive to stay the f.ck out of the candy. I'm getting pretty cool biceps, and I like to imagine how much cooler they'll look without the layer of blubber hiding their true glory ... carla > > When is the last time you looked at yourself naked in the mirror? Do you > > look good to yourself? [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > > carla Think of how strong you'll feel when you can walk by the candy and scoff at the notion of its lure. You have biceps! > My inner WFFID has had the advantage recently. > [quoted text clipped - 21 lines] > > carla Carla,,, for now,, how about you just take few plain almonds to nash at when you are in need. From there,, you can back down off the almonds after you break the habit of reaching out when tired. just a thought, cheryl carla wrote: My inner WFFID has had the advantage recently. I have managed to avoid much overeating and bad eating by controlling what I have around me. I bring low-carb snacks to work so that I don't need to hit the vending machine. I count calories carefully. I've had some success. But there's a secretary in my office, one who sits right next to my secretary, who keeps a public candy bowl on the top of her bay. I walk by it a thousand times a day. Every time I go to the bathroom, refill my water bottle, go to the cafeteria, go to a meeting on another floor, go to the supply closet or copy room, I walk by it - once on the way there, once on the way back. I have no trouble staying out of it all day long, but when I am working late, it gets harder and harder to keep my mitts out of it. Last night I was at the office past 11:00pm, and I hit the stupid candy bowl ... not just once either, and not for the first time. The scale hasn't really budged for me in over two weeks, and I know the reason, which is why I haven't been complaining about it. Now I am not complaining, but crying for help. Will someone please help me kick my inner WFFID's a.s to the curb? Some resonating rhetoric might echo in my head when my hand heads for the bowl, and help me with this raw exercise of will. -------------------------------- Carla, I would kick your a.s to the curb clear across the street if I though it would help. <G> But seriously, when I find myself in similar circumstances I STOP, gently close my eyes, take a deep calming breath, and in my "minds eye" I envision what I want to look like at the end of my journey thru this WOE. You can do it! I for one know it's hard, but think about what lies at the end of this trip, and take pride in what you have accomplished so far. Like the cig. commercial said, "you've come a long way baby" You have worked too hard to let something like this derail you now. Best Wishes; Marty >From: "carla" cmtlevy@yahoo.com >My inner WFFID has had the advantage recently. > [quoted text clipped - 13 lines] >was at the office past 11:00pm, and I hit the stupid candy bowl ... not just >once either, and not for the first time. >carla Carla, Can you ask her to put the candy in her desk or her credenza or something when she leaves for the night? If not, maybe the thought that if you can't keep yourself out of her candy you will have to ask her to hide it from you at night will keep you out of the candy:)Robyn I caught myself thinking (when opening the fridge late one night) "If nobody sees me eat this, it won't make me fat." One devil on the shoulder identified. This devil on the shoulder wants me FAT! > My inner WFFID has had the advantage recently. > [quoted text clipped - 21 lines] > > carla Buy some SF stuff and allow yourself say 2 a day. If you know you'll get *something* you may be able to resist knowing there's a treat with your name on it. ??? SignatureBear Grrrrrrrrrrrr :o) 297/267/210 Highest weight 353 http://home.earthlink.net/~polarbear50/index.html > My inner WFFID has had the advantage recently. > [quoted text clipped - 21 lines] > > carla Carla, If you don't stay out of the damn candy jar you'll never gain control over your weight. Make a decision and follow through. :: My inner WFFID has had the advantage recently. :: [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] :: :: carla > My inner WFFID has had the advantage recently. > [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > WFFID's a.s to the curb? Some resonating rhetoric might echo in my head > when my hand heads for the bowl, and help me with this raw exercise of will. other people have suggested substitutes, but i'm not going to do that. what i'm going to suggest is that you butch the hell up and DON'T STICK YOUR DAMN HAND IN THE BOWL to start with. do you even really want the candy? is it that good? or are you just dipping into it from a combination of stress and habit? either way: don't. just don't. yeah, i know how hard it is. the free candy bowl at my job? lives on my desk. you know what the deal is, carla. you don't want to be fat any more. you know you can't have just one. so don't let yourself get started. it's hard, but it's also the simplest thing in the world. Better advice than mine. SignatureBear Grrrrrrrrrrrr :o) 297/267/210 Highest weight 353 http://home.earthlink.net/~polarbear50/index.html > > My inner WFFID has had the advantage recently. > > [quoted text clipped - 37 lines] > > it's hard, but it's also the simplest thing in the world. > Better advice than mine. i'm not opposed to substitutes. i use them myself (sunflower seeds). but sometimes it's the behavior that needs to be changed, not the food. > From: The Queen of Cans and Jars (Thu, 11 Mar 2004 04:17:59 GMT) > MsgId: <1gag8ao.tcwg2l1ofyj97N%dhrravr@ohatzhapu.bet> > > sometimes it's the behavior that needs to be changed, not the food. My wish for the newsgroup would be that everyone get this statement. There are folks who eat for nutrition. The rest of us eat because food tastes good. There's little reason not to enjoy what you're eating. But is the enjoyment the primary purpose of the eating? I think for most overweight people, it is. So even though there is little dietary benefit to eating Ice Cream, my heart is all aflutter over Breyer's CarbSmart. I have "LC" bread. I have "LC" syrup and "LC" pancake mix. These things work. I've been using them, and my BF% is improving. But they only work on one level. One area they DON'T work is in helping me break a psychological addiction to foods. LC'ing has helped me not crave food so much. I should support my goals by not replacing all my High Carb food with LC versions of the same food. Rather, I should eat real food with nutritional benefits that are naturally low in carbs. I had some Russel Stover candies one day based on the recommendation of friends (I love turtles), and found myself wondering "WTF am I eating this for?" I haven't had any artificial snack-type foods since. Folks, we _are_ attempting a new way of eating. Support your goals. Don't undermine them. Eat for nutrition. Enjoy it along the way, but eat for nutrition. If you're eating because you love food, failure will always be knocking at your door. Oh, and while I'm ranting ... :) I also had a moment of thinking about target daily caloric intake. Some people might see the ideal caloric intake for their desired weight and think "that's barely any food." If that's your first thought, you know what camp you fall into. We shouldn't be moaning that we can't consume more fuel just because we like the taste of the fuel. If I have a car that only needs one fill-up to get me through a week, I'm thinking "great". I'm not sad because it won't burn (and require) more fuel. I'm not going out of my way to buy lower octane fuel just so I can buy gas more often. Think about it folks... > > From: The Queen of Cans and Jars (Thu, 11 Mar 2004 04:17:59 GMT) > > MsgId: <1gag8ao.tcwg2l1ofyj97N%dhrravr@ohatzhapu.bet> [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > There are folks who eat for nutrition. The rest of us eat because food > tastes good. [remainder of excellent post snipped] CarbAddict, that was a great post. It was - um - food for thought. I am a foodie, and I do get a lot of pleasure out of preparing and eating good food. When I look forward to my future, at-goal self, I try to imagine how I will adjust my approach to good food so I can stay at goal. I think I will still get great pleasure out of a wonderful meal, but I have to teach myself to understand that not every meal has to be a delicious, wonderful meal. Most of the time I will prepare something simple, nutritious, and good enough that I want to eat it. Perhaps once a week I will prepare something truly special at home, or go out to an excellent restaurant. I note that a truly special meal need not be off-plan - happily I have found this to be so for low-carb, where it was not for low-fat - but crossing the line from eating for fuel to eating for pleasure something I will need to avoid nearly all the time. carla > other people have suggested substitutes, but i'm not going to do that. > what i'm going to suggest is that you butch the hell up and DON'T STICK [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > > just don't. Thanks to everyone for the great advice and comments. I did not touch the candy today, because I knew you all would kick my a.s if I came back here and said I did! :-) I worked until about 8:15pm, and then I went to the gym and lifted some heavy things. Tomorrow, no gym, but also no candy. It's funny - for the first couple months since I started my plan, I had no trouble staying out of it. But the last week or two I just got weak. I don't know; I'm working on an unpleasant project at work, etc., all the usual excuses for slippage. It's *over* now. That's all. > yeah, i know how hard it is. the free candy bowl at my job? lives on > my desk. Wow, how the hell do you do that? I will never be the person with the candy bowl. carla > > other people have suggested substitutes, but i'm not going to do that. > > what i'm going to suggest is that you butch the hell up and DON'T STICK [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > unpleasant project at work, etc., all the usual excuses for slippage. It's > *over* now. That's all. it's hard for me to make good decisions about food when i'm unhappy or under stress. my normally reliable common sense just flies out the window. i'm very conscious of the fact that i'm making a stupid choice, but sometimes i go ahead and make it anyhow. i don't think you were making excuses. you knew what you were doing, and you knew you needed to stop it so you did. > > yeah, i know how hard it is. the free candy bowl at my job? lives on > > my desk. > > > Wow, how the hell do you do that? I will never be the person with the > candy bowl. when i am stressed out and know that my resistance is low, i keep myself busy with sunflower seeds. most of the time, i just don't think about it. it's just hard candy; if it was chocolate i'd already be dead. not that i've managed to stay out of it entirely, mind you. but it is less of a siren than other things are for me. fortunately, it's going away as soon as it's empty. my boss and i discussed it and we decided that we don't need to be feeding anyone's sugar habit. if they want it, they can get their own. > it's hard for me to make good decisions about food when i'm unhappy or > under stress. my normally reliable common sense just flies out the [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > i don't think you were making excuses. you knew what you were doing, > and you knew you needed to stop it so you did. I worked late again last night - I was at the office until 1:00 AM revising a brief whose deadline is swift approaching. I stayed out of the candy again. I think you are right - I got weak for a while, and then decided enough was enough. I've had some loss show up on the scale in the last two days and I'd like to hang on to it, thanks very much. One thing about me and candy - it's much easier for me to have none than to have just one piece. One of the things that happened during the dark days when I ate the candy was that I would nab "just one piece" on my way by. Then I'd start returning and the handfuls would get a little bigger each time. Oh, so *that's* what everyone means by "trigger food." > fortunately, it's going away as soon as it's empty. my boss and i > discussed it and we decided that we don't need to be feeding anyone's > sugar habit. if they want it, they can get their own. A funny aside - the secretary who keeps the candy bowl is in the office Weight Watchers program; she has lost some weight and is (sometimes) pretty gung-ho about her program. I don't know how she can have the candy there, but I guess she can stay out of it too. It is incongruous, though, that while she sends out these encouraging emails to the entire firm soliciting Weight Watchers members, she also provides free sugar to everyone who walks by. carla > One thing about me and candy - it's much easier for me to have none than to > have just one piece. me too. one is almost never enough, but if i don't have any to start with it's not a problem. > It is incongruous, though, that while she sends out these encouraging > emails to the entire firm soliciting Weight Watchers members, she also > provides free sugar to everyone who walks by. incongruous is putting it nicely. i'd say it's hypocritical. > Some resonating rhetoric might echo in my head > when my hand heads for the bowl, and help me with this raw exercise of > will. Here are my willpower mantras: I *choose* what goes in my mouth. Me. Only me. It's *my* choice. I *choose* not to eat that. The other comes straight from DANDR: Not that, not now. Right now, weight loss is my destiny, and I can visualize what I want to feel like and look like. Eating that will keep me from feeling and looking that way. I also agree with the other poster that suggested you ask that secretary to put the candy dish away when she leaves for the day. Cate Cate said: Here are my willpower mantras: I *choose* what goes in my mouth. Me. Only me. It's *my* choice. I *choose* not to eat that. ------ I agree 100%. There are many things in life about which we have no control, Carla. You may not even be able to control IF you have to work that night, but you, and you alone, control what goes into your mouth. This should actually make you feel good...that you don't any longer have to be fat...because you are in control of at least this one area of your life. If you choose to take a piece of candy in your mouth, you are still in control, right? You are telling yourself, "I choose to eat this candy because I like it, and in doing so, I choose not to lose that pound I want to lose" because, in essence, that is what you are doing. Once you realize that your diet is probably the easiest thing to control about your life, there is a real feeling of "can do it" again. Most things in life (diseases, children's health, accidents, even income, gas hikes, behavior of others, etc.) we really don't control ...we react to them...our diet, however, usually is within our control. Becky P. www.family.solidrockpl.org 199/145.5/135 >Here are my willpower mantras: > >I *choose* what goes in my mouth. Me. Only me. It's *my* choice. I *choose* >not to eat that. I say "I don't eat that." Not I can't, but I DON'T. Helps me quite a bit. LCing since 12/01/03- Me- 265/223/140 & hubby- 310/244/180 lcer09@aol.com (LCer09) wrote in news:20040309160418.18347.00000914@mb- m06.aol.com: > I say "I don't eat that." Not I can't, but I DON'T. Helps me quite a bit. Good one. I forgot one that I used to quit smoking: That [cigarette, M&M, piece of pie, bowl of ice cream, what have you] won't taste any different than the last one I ate 6 months ago. It still tastes the same as it did then, and I don't need to put it in my mouth to prove it. Cate > >Here are my willpower mantras: > > [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > Me- 265/223/140 > & hubby- 310/244/180 I do the same thing. I even phrase it that way when refusing carby offerings from others. SignatureMichelle Levin http://www.mindspring.com/~lunachick I have only 3 flaws. My first flaw is thinking that I only have 3 flaws. >I do the same thing. I even phrase it that way when refusing carby >offerings from others. Exactly. If you say "I can't eat that cookie because I can't have sugar" you get all kinds of questions & encouragement to 'just have one' or whatnot. I just say "I don't eat sugar" and nobody makes a second suggestion that I change my mind! LCing since 12/01/03- Me- 265/223/140 & hubby- 310/244/180 > I also agree with the other poster that suggested you ask that secretary to > put the candy dish away when she leaves for the day. I might think about that. I'm reluctant to do it because other attorneys who work late probably enjoy having it there. But I did especially like the suggestion that poster (Robyn) made of using that to my advantage - I don't want to have to ask her to put it away, so I'd better just exercise some damn self control. :-) carla > The scale hasn't really budged for me in over two weeks, and I know the > reason, which is why I haven't been complaining about it. Now I am not > complaining, but crying for help. Will someone please help me kick my inner > WFFID's a.s to the curb? Some resonating rhetoric might echo in my head > when my hand heads for the bowl, and help me with this raw exercise of will. Repeat after me...I am stronger than the candy. Inhale deeply. Think of something else as you pass the bowl. Marsha/Ohio > > The scale hasn't really budged for me in over two weeks, and I know the > > reason, which is why I haven't been complaining about it. Now I am not [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > > Marsha/Ohio This may make me sound weak, but when I'm around food I should not eat, it helps me to distract my mouth by drinking water or chewing sugarless gum. At the movie theater job, I chew on the pellet ice instead of popcorn. I chew my gum and flatten it out with my tounge, then wrap it around some ice pellets and crunch it. It's kinda fun actually. SignatureMichelle Levin http://www.mindspring.com/~lunachick I have only 3 flaws. My first flaw is thinking that I only have 3 flaws. If the "just don't do it" approach isn't quite working, you could try chewing SF gum. It keeps me from snacking (peppermint especially). Em Hoo boy, I hate those communal candy bowls. You've been doing great, carla. People have offered great suggestions. Mine is, imagine what the candy does to your teeth. Every time you walk by the bowl, think of how happy you are not to be sitting in a dentist's chair with a big buzzing drill coming at you. Hmmm... I used to be addicted to those mints that they put in a bowl by the door at diners, until someone told me the percentage of people who don't wash their hands after they leave the restroom. Then I thought of them as Pee Mints and I was fine with passing them up. So, I dunno, imagine how many people in your office only wash their hands when someone else is in the restroom. <g> << My inner WFFID has had the advantage recently. I have managed to avoid much overeating and bad eating by controlling what I have around me. I bring low-carb snacks to work so that I don't need to hit the vending machine. I count calories carefully. I've had some success. But there's a secretary in my office, one who sits right next to my secretary, who keeps a public candy bowl on the top of her bay. I walk by it a thousand times a day. Every time I go to the bathroom, refill my water bottle, go to the cafeteria, go to a meeting on another floor, go to the supply closet or copy room, I walk by it - once on the way there, once on the way back. I have no trouble staying out of it all day long, but when I am working late, it gets harder and harder to keep my mitts out of it. Last night I was at the office past 11:00pm, and I hit the stupid candy bowl ... not just once either, and not for the first time. The scale hasn't really budged for me in over two weeks, and I know the reason, which is why I haven't been complaining about it. Now I am not complaining, but crying for help. Will someone please help me kick my inner WFFID's a.s to the curb? Some resonating rhetoric might echo in my head when my hand heads for the bowl, and help me with this raw exercise of will. carla Piedlourde >Hmmm... I used to be addicted to those mints that they put in a bowl by the >door at diners, until someone told me the percentage of people who don't wash [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] >when >someone else is in the restroom. <g> My pet peeve. I notice about 1/3 of women don't wash their hands when using a public restroom. Grosses me out. Yvonne > So, I dunno, imagine how many people in your office only wash their hands when > someone else is in the restroom. <g> eeeeeew. About a year ago we actually had a memo from human resources about that - evidently someone had noticed that people weren't washing and must have complained to HR about it. It was one of those things that just makes people think, WTF is human resources thinking? I don't know if it shamed anyone into changing his or her behavior. carla |
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