I have this female friend who inspired me to join WW.  I don't see her
very often, but I knew from her blog that she'd been working hard at
the program and losing weight, and that's what made me decide to join.
Last week, I saw her for the first time in 5 months, since before I
joined WW.  I'd lost 40 pounds (and it shows), but she looked heavier
than I've ever seen her.  She said to me, "Wow, you look great!"  I
said, "Thanks!  40 pounds gone, hopefully for good."  There were a
couple other women in the room, too.  Anyway, I felt really bad because
I wanted to say, "You look great, too," but I couldn't bring myself to
lie on the fly.  And there was this awkward moment where I felt like I
should have complimented her back.  I am not known for my tact, but at
least this time I kept my mouth shut and changed the subject as quickly
as I could.  I mean, she had to know I noticed that she'd regressed in
her weight loss (she hadn't been posting much about it on her blog,
lately, either).  My fiance says I should have just said she looks
great, too.  What would you have said?  And what would you do (if
anything) to encourage a casual friend to get back into the program?
She was my inspiration, and I really want her to succeed.  How will she
feel if I, who started WW several months after her, and for the first
time (compared to her four or five times), get down to my goal weight
while she remains obese?  If it were me, I'd be devastated and
discouraged and disgusted with myself, and I really don't want to visit
that on her.  I realize we all make our own choices in life, but I
really wish there was something I could to encourage her to succeed.  I
know how bad she wants this.