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Weight Loss Forum / WeightWatchers / January 2006I Want to Start...really
I got the talk from my wife today. She wants to see me lose some weight. Wants to see me healthier, thinner, with more energy. Wants to be more physically attracted to me. Wants me to have more self-confidence. She was gentle about it. I didn't walk away from the conversation hating her in some sort of "just accept me" attitude or anything. I know she's right. It was a bit depressing but I appreciate her honesty. I have to admit though. I'm overwhelmed. I'm 26, 5'7", and 212 lbs. The WW website says I should weigh about 127 and 153. I haven't weighed that since I was in 8th grade. I was athletic and thin until about my junior year of high school (97). I'd love to be that again. I desperately want to. Not just for my wife but for me. But loosing 60-85 pounds seems like an enormous number that I'll never reach. Honestly I liked how I looked and felt at 170, personally. I have no energy. The thought of exercise makes me cringe. Seeing my fat, bloated body waddling on a treadmill or being completely winded after 10 situps. How disgusting. I've tried and failed at so many diet plans that I didn't stick with that I'm beginning to feel like I'm somehow "supposed" to be fat the rest of my life. Like my body's incapable of losing that much weight or something. Not to mention keeping it off. My dad's almost 50. Diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, overweight, doc says he's a stroke/heart attack victim waiting to happen if ever he's seen one. I don't want to be that either. That scares me. I just need to hear that it's not too late. That I *can* do this. Is Weight Watchers for me? Will it help? I've done it before, but always online, never attended meetings. Always lost 10 pounds in the first couple of weeks and then...nothing. So I'd quit. I bet this sounds like a hundred other sob stories out there. Sorry if this sounds like a troll. I don't mean it to. :Bazooka-Joe >I got the talk from my wife today. She wants to see me lose some > weight. Wants to see me healthier, thinner, with more energy. Wants [quoted text clipped - 31 lines] > > :Bazooka-Joe It is definitely not too late! After numerous attempts at weight loss I finally reached a normal weight for the first time in my life at age 37. I'm 39 now and on WW to get back down to where I want to be. I recommend the meetings. They offer a bit of motivation you might not find on line. Don't look at the total amount as so huge, break it into smaller amounts (mini goals) to help keep up the motivation. Same thing with the exercise. If you don't like sit ups and the treadmill, find something else to do. Start small and work your way up. You'll find as you lose weight you'll get more energy and enjoy more activities.  Signaturethe volleyballchick 100+ lbs lost > >I got the talk from my wife today. She wants to see me lose some > > weight. Wants to see me healthier, thinner, with more energy. Wants [quoted text clipped - 47 lines] > the volleyballchick > 100+ lbs lost Thanks. As you probably guessed, this is my first time here. And really, this is the day I'm making up my mind to lose the weight. I'm leaning towards WW, but am considering LA Weight Loss and Jenny Craig too (but JC seems kinda spendy). I did the Atkins thing and I won't do it again. I hope to do the meetings. You can pay week-to-week can't you? You don't have to pay for the whole month or year up front do you? My BMI is something like 33 right now (apparently I was obese after 30). I'll try breaking it down into mini goals. Seems like a good idea. Goal #1: 190 Goal #2: 175 (I'd be pretty happy with myself if I even made it this far) Goals #3: 150 :Bazooka-Joe I am about your height. I used to think I could never get to goal either, but here I am, and I have been here for almost 2 1/2 years now. I had a lot more to lose than you do :). It can be done. If I were you though, I would lose the revolting self talk. Do like Sylvester Stallone suggests, work out and tell yourself "I'm big, but I'm strong". Follow the good health guidelines in your food choices and eventually you will be both strong, and no longer that big.... SignatureLesanne > >> >I got the talk from my wife today. She wants to see me lose some [quoted text clipped - 70 lines] > > :Bazooka-Joe > Thanks. As you probably guessed, this is my first time here. And > really, this is the day I'm making up my mind to lose the weight. I'm [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > you? You don't have to pay for the whole month or year up front do > you? You can pay week to week with WW. It's much less spendy than the other programs plus you don't have to eat their food so you don't end up spending more on food either. From my personal experience, the meal replacement programs are good when you are morbidly obese and have tried many programs without any success. It's also very important to transition from the meal replacements to real food *before* you hit goal and not afterward. You really need to learn how to eat real food and it's better to practice while in the weight loss phase rather than waiting for maintenance. > My BMI is something like 33 right now (apparently I was obese after > 30). [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > far) > Goals #3: 150 These sound like very reasonable goals. I just set some mini-goals but don't have a final goal. I'll know I'm there when I get there :) I do have a goal pants size/waist size which is more important to me than BMI or scale number. Signaturethe volleyballchick >> Thanks. As you probably guessed, this is my first time here. And >> really, this is the day I'm making up my mind to lose the weight. [quoted text clipped - 31 lines] > I do have a goal pants size/waist size which is more important to me > than BMI or scale number. I also use pants size/ waist size for my goal. The smaller size is beginning to be too snug because of my excess eating and drinking this month. It is very depressing and I know I want them loose again so I have just planned a week of very healthy eating with daily exercise. This is a mini goal for me. I am going to weigh in on Thursday for my February weigh in and my goal is not to pay. I have therefore looked at the days from now until then and know they include a lunch and dinner out on Tuesday, but, I can control those choices as I will control choices for the rest of the week. Today I plan to set up a journal for these five days and fill in my evening dinner plans for the nights I am at home. Audrey Audrey >>> Thanks. As you probably guessed, this is my first time here. And >>> really, this is the day I'm making up my mind to lose the weight. I'm [quoted text clipped - 40 lines] > > Audrey Sounds like you have a great plan. I am only a small bit away from one of my major goals and it's helped keep me on track. Now that I have a weekend at home I am making lots of advance meals because it's going to be a busy week. I will send positive vibes your way for a successful week! Signaturethe volleyballchick here are my mini goals so you can have some other feedback: 1. I currently weigh 163.8 started at 251.6, lowest weight was 151.2 so - first goal 161.6 to get back to 90 pounds lost. - 159.8 to get back to below 160 - 156.6 to get back to 95 pounds lost - 151.6 to get back to 100 pounds lost - 149.8 to get below 150 again good luck, Lee > > Thanks. As you probably guessed, this is my first time here. And > > really, this is the day I'm making up my mind to lose the weight. I'm [quoted text clipped - 30 lines] > -- > the volleyballchick On 1/28/06 8:54 AM, in article 1138406055.414003.101670@g43g2000cwa.googlegroups.com, "Bazooka-Joe" <bazooka-joe@comcast.net> wrote: > I just need to hear that it's not too late. It's not too late. I am a 49 year old basically sedentary male and managed to lose over 60 pounds the last 34 weeks without excessive exercise (just moderate exercise) and the amount of portion/calorie control that anybody can do if they are just willing to give up utter gluttony and eat reasonably. At 26 you should do even better than I have. It's a perfect time to do this! > That I *can* do this. Is > Weight Watchers for me? Will it help? I've done it before, but always > online, never attended meetings. Always lost 10 pounds in the first > couple of weeks and then...nothing. So I'd quit. I bet this sounds > like a hundred other sob stories out there. Sorry if this sounds like > a troll. I don't mean it to. My diet isn't Weight Watchers but it is basically like it. Just counting calories instead of their points. So I think the WW plan is good. The problem is, you are facing a psychological barrier right now, not wanting to get back into a plan that has not worked for you before. When that happens, it's time to tweak your diet approach until it clicks and feels right for you. If online was not the right thing for you, then how about trying their meetings? Maybe what you need is the extra feedback and support. If that doesn't work, maybe you need to do what I'm doing and measure calories directly in a slightly alternate plan. The main thing though is to not give up. If you fall off the wagon, try again. If the next time doesn't work, then try again. If that next time doesn't seem to be "it", then try again. And if all else fails - try again! At some point you will find the right combination of diet/exercise methods that clicks for you, something you can stay on for years. doug > I got the talk from my wife today. She wants to see me lose some > weight. Wants to see me healthier, thinner, with more energy. Wants [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > anything. I know she's right. It was a bit depressing but I > appreciate her honesty. Be nice to her. She wants to keep you, and is doing her best. > I have to admit though. I'm overwhelmed. I'm 26, 5'7", and 212 lbs. > The WW website says I should weigh about 127 and 153. I haven't [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > 60-85 pounds seems like an enormous number that I'll never reach. > Honestly I liked how I looked and felt at 170, personally. Don't let the big numbers get to you. Do it in baby steps. I've lost 57-60 (depending on the week!) in slow baby steps. It goes. Just don't rush it. Losing it for yourself is the best way to go. Maybe the wife gave you the key, but only you can do the losing. You can. You will. > I have no energy. The thought of exercise makes me cringe. Seeing my > fat, bloated body waddling on a treadmill or being completely winded [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > victim waiting to happen if ever he's seen one. I don't want to be > that either. That scares me. So ditch the treadmill and the sit-ups. Try just walking out in the fresh air: 20 minutes a day, and fast enough to make you somewhat breathless at the end (takes 3-5 minutes to get your breath back) will do for starters. And try swimming. At 47, fat (213lbs and 5'4" tall!), and all wobbly and blearch and arthritic I got me cozzy out and started swimming. That first day I managed 20 lengths in an hour! 18 months later, at 49 and still arthritic, 57 or so pounds lighter thanks to WW, I managed 60 in 75 minutes today, and it was a bad day for the Arthur! Energy levels and enthusiasm shoot up ans the weight slides off. > I just need to hear that it's not too late. That I *can* do this. Is > Weight Watchers for me? Will it help? I've done it before, but always > online, never attended meetings. Always lost 10 pounds in the first > couple of weeks and then...nothing. So I'd quit. I bet this sounds > like a hundred other sob stories out there. Sorry if this sounds like > a troll. I don't mean it to. Nah, just sounds like a depressed kid. And of course it isn't too late. I'm almost twice your age, and it isn't too late for me, so how can it be too late for you? Hit the URL below, and look in my Posh Frocks gallery. The first picture at the top is me before the weight loss. The ones at the bottom are also me, last week! For better ones of me now, look at the Black Velvet Bodice. Maybe you should try a meeting. I thought I'd hate them, but actually mine are quite fun, and it means you really *DO* have to put yourself first once a week! Get some of the cookbooks, and get both you and your wife involved in the cooking. I cook WW style all the time, even when we have guests. They love the food, and no-one is ever hungry after a meal. DH and son have higher octane snacks than I do, but even they appreciate the healthy food style, with masses of salads, fresh veg, low fat stuff, and have switched to less chocolate, fewer sweet snacks, lower fat crisps and stuff, and more fruit. If it's good for me (49 and with fibromyalgia), good for DH (54 and a type 1 diabetic on insulin), and good for the Son & Heir to the Family Debts (11, learning to swim, plays football and does judo), then it'll be good for you too. You may hate the exercise (or even just the thought of exercise) at this point: I did. I still do! You will never EVER catch me in a gymn outside of a pain management course, but I swim 2-3 times a week, and as soon as the weather improves, I'll be getting back to my daily 2 mile hike to fetch the lad home from school! Good luck! > :Bazooka-Joe SignatureKate XXXXXX R.C.T.Q Madame Chef des Trolls Lady Catherine, Wardrobe Mistress of the Chocolate Buttons http://www.katedicey.co.uk Click on Kate's Pages and explore! >I got the talk from my wife today. She wants to see me lose some >weight. Wants to see me healthier, thinner, with more energy. Wants [quoted text clipped - 31 lines] > >:Bazooka-Joe Take a look at the halls-md site http://www.halls.md/ideal-weight/body.htm This will help you set up a long term goal. It seems to be on the ball. The figures work well for me. 121-160 is the medical recommendation 146 is Halls idea of an ideal weight. As doug said "it's not too late". In fact you are in an ideal position to lose weight. Similar to Doug I'm 48 and over the past 4 years I've gone from 273 to 194. I have been a bit lower, but I gained over the holiday and I'm losing again now. WW has a great support network, and counting/logging points helps you become aware of what you are eating. But I prefer to do this my way, so again similar to Doug I count calories. Another good site is EXRX http://www.exrx.net/Lists/Beginning.html This will tell you how many calories you need to maintain, and so dropping that by 500 per day will make you lose 1 pound a week or so. Exercise is something that will help enormously. Not so much with weight loss but with fitness in general. You should try to find some kind of exercise that you like, or at least can tolerate. I hate cardio and haven't found anything that I can do over more than a few weeks which is regrettable. However I discovered weight training and even though I'm useless at it I enjoy it and miss it when I don't do it 2/3 times a week. Is that an option? Now is the time to get your weight under control. You are in the right frame of mind - you want to change and your wife is behind you and the thought of ending up at 50 overweight with diabetes and high blood pressure as your incentive. set an initial goal of 200 pounds and see how far you get. But remember that this is for the long term, you can't give up in 3 months or you will go straight back to 212 pounds. Persistence is the key. Good luck Ray Welcome, it will work if you work it, I have lost around 90 pounds, it has taken ages but I am 46, female and not an exerciser either, it does work, and I NEED the meetings, don't look at all the weight just set a goal of 5 pounds then move on from there, good luck, post often, Lee > I got the talk from my wife today. She wants to see me lose some > weight. Wants to see me healthier, thinner, with more energy. Wants [quoted text clipped - 31 lines] > > :Bazooka-Joe |
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