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teachrmama - 18 Dec 2006 07:12 GMT

Tomorrow I head down to my mother's house for a holiday visit. I'll see
siblings and their families, too. Suddenly I feel fat, fat, fat. I know I
am not nearly as bad as I was. I'm 5'5" tall, and weighed 235 last May. I
now weigh 158. (My mid-range goal is 150, so I'm almost there. I will
probably go on to 135, which seems a decent goal at my height.) Yesterday I
was thrilled to be at 158. Tonight, I feel fat. Geesh--what is wrong with
me!!!!!

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The Historian - 18 Dec 2006 13:28 GMT

> Tomorrow I head down to my mother's house for a holiday visit. I'll see
> siblings and their families, too. Suddenly I feel fat, fat, fat.

It's a common feeling. You never realize how badly you do something
until you try to improve your skill. You never realize how fat you are
until you try to lose weight.

I know I

> am not nearly as bad as I was. I'm 5'5" tall, and weighed 235 last May. I
> now weigh 158. (My mid-range goal is 150, so I'm almost there. I will
> probably go on to 135, which seems a decent goal at my height.) Yesterday I
> was thrilled to be at 158. Tonight, I feel fat. Geesh--what is wrong with
> me!!!!!

Nothing. Just go and enjoy the compliments you get. You deserve them.

Neil
385/275/220

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teachrmama - 23 Dec 2006 04:58 GMT

>> Tomorrow I head down to my mother's house for a holiday visit. I'll see
>> siblings and their families, too. Suddenly I feel fat, fat, fat.
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>
> Nothing. Just go and enjoy the compliments you get. You deserve them.

Thanks, Neil. We made it back from our trip with no problems--then the
alternator on the car went out. <chuckle> I'm glad it waited until we got
back. I had a nice time with my family. The only one who relly commented
on my weight loss was my sister-in-law. But my family don't really express
themselves a lot. But I know they noticed. And I did not overeat, or fall
back into stress behaviors. It was actually harder to stay on track after I
got home than during the visit. Now that I'm home I don't feel fat any
more. <smile>

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The Historian - 23 Dec 2006 05:31 GMT

> >> Tomorrow I head down to my mother's house for a holiday visit. I'll see
> >> siblings and their families, too. Suddenly I feel fat, fat, fat.
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> got home than during the visit. Now that I'm home I don't feel fat any
> more. <smile>

Good for you. It's amazing how often people notice and don't say a
thing. I'm glad you noticed them noticing. :-)

Neil
385/275/220

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Scott H - 18 Dec 2006 13:58 GMT

Lot of emotions tied up with family. Many of people's childhood
emotions and issues are brought back to the fore during family
gatherings. This can bring back feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt
that may have helped lead you to the bad habits you had in the past.

Go forward and keep doing the good things you are doing for yourself.

Good luck

> Tomorrow I head down to my mother's house for a holiday visit. I'll see
> siblings and their families, too. Suddenly I feel fat, fat, fat. I know I
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> was thrilled to be at 158. Tonight, I feel fat. Geesh--what is wrong with
> me!!!!!

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Willow Herself - 18 Dec 2006 14:55 GMT

You're nervous!!! It has nothing to do with weight, it has all to do with
self assurance!!

You've accomplished something huge (no pun intended here!)!! They will
notice it. They might or might not acknowledge it, but they WILL be
impressed, whether they say it or not!!

Be proud !! Chin up ! You are amazing!
Will~

> Tomorrow I head down to my mother's house for a holiday visit. I'll see
> siblings and their families, too. Suddenly I feel fat, fat, fat. I know
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> I was thrilled to be at 158. Tonight, I feel fat. Geesh--what is wrong
> with me!!!!!

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eddiegirl - 18 Dec 2006 15:50 GMT

>> Tomorrow I head down to my mother's house for a holiday
>> visit. I'll see siblings and their families, too.
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>> thrilled to be at 158. Tonight, I feel fat.
>> Geesh--what is wrong with me!!!!!

This may not work for you, but it always works for me. I
feel fat when I don't eat and exercise according to the
guidelines I've set up for myself. When I'm eating and
exercising within my plan, I feel thinner. If I let myself
have too many Christmas cookies (as I did when I baked
this weekend) I feel fat, whatever the scale may say to
the contrary. So, my advice is, while you are at home, try
to stay within your personal eating and exercise plan as
much as possible. Then you may not only look like a thin
person, you may feel like one too. Hope this helps, and
hope you have a great time.

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Take care,
eddiegirl
136/130

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teachrmama - 23 Dec 2006 05:03 GMT

>>> Tomorrow I head down to my mother's house for a holiday visit. I'll see
>>> siblings and their families, too. Suddenly I feel fat, fat, fat. I know
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> thin person, you may feel like one too. Hope this helps, and hope you have
> a great time.

I let myself eat a couple of sweets when I was there. But that's ok. I
feel if I totally deny myself such things, I will surely "fall off the
wagon," and binge uncontrollably. Forbidden fruit syndrome. <chuckle> So I
permit myself treats within my new Way Of Eating. And it was fine. We had
a good time. =c)

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eddiegirl - 24 Dec 2006 14:47 GMT

>>>> Tomorrow I head down to my mother's house for a
>>>> holiday visit. I'll see siblings and their families,
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> I permit myself treats within my new Way Of Eating. And
> it was fine. We had a good time. =c)

Glad everything went well. Good for you for staying within
your Way of Eating.

Take care,
eddiegirl
136/135/130

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teachrmama - 23 Dec 2006 05:00 GMT

> You're nervous!!! It has nothing to do with weight, it has all to do with
> self assurance!!
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>
> Be proud !! Chin up ! You are amazing!

Thanks. Willow. It was a good trip. Only my sister-in-law mentioned
anything. But that's ok. I'm just glad to be home safe and sound.

>> Tomorrow I head down to my mother's house for a holiday visit. I'll see
>> siblings and their families, too. Suddenly I feel fat, fat, fat. I know
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>> Yesterday I was thrilled to be at 158. Tonight, I feel fat. Geesh--what
>> is wrong with me!!!!!

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SFrunner - 18 Dec 2006 16:57 GMT

Nothing wrong with you, it's your family. I have a father like that and
I choose not to communicate with him any longer because he does nothing
but put me down. This may sound drastic, but we cannnot change others,
just our behavior towards them.

You have to decide what you wish to do to accomplish minimal damage.

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teachrmama - 23 Dec 2006 05:07 GMT

>> Tomorrow I head down to my mother's house for a holiday visit. I'll see
>> siblings and their families, too. Suddenly I feel fat, fat, fat. I know
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> but put me down. This may sound drastic, but we cannnot change others,
> just our behavior towards them.

Actually, my family is ok. Obesity seems to be chronic for most in my
family, though. Eating is a sport, I think. My perception of who I am
tends to be different when I am with them--probably something that many
people feel. It was a nice trip, but I'm glad to be home.

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