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Weight Loss Forum / General Topics / March 2004Naked Nightmare
I need some input from yall. Last night here in the new house we bought, we have new mirrors in the bathroom that I didn't have before at my old home. Needless to say walking naked into a full length mirror after a 60+ lb weightloss is a scary ordeal. I have learned to ignore it for the most part but lastnight I walked past this mirror and I honestly wanted to cringe. My skin is just hanging there and I am wondering if it will ever get any better looking. 3 kids have seriously damaged my skin around my waist and hips and I know the stretchmarks will never go away (so I tan to get a little more even skin tone) but will the skin itself ever shape up any more than this? what happens when I shed the 60+ more I want to lose to goal? Will I end up just a walking mass of gross loose skin? I know spot reduction does not work. But will the little bit of weight resistance I've been doing pay off on toning up my skin as well as my muscle? Cosmetic surgery isn't an option for me financially at this time and I'm not sure it would be even if I was able to pay for it. Grossed out by her own skin Susan 260/200/140 > I need some input from yall. > Last night here in the new house we bought, we have new mirrors in the [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > Susan > 260/200/140 Ive got lots of thoughts on this. Unfortunately, they don't converge into an answer. :-) One point of view is that your skin shows your life experiences. It just is who you are. You aren't going to be 18 again. You've got children, fat gain and fat loss telling their story on your skin. Accept that you won't look good naked and invest in pretty clothes. I am doing everything I can for my skin - I put lotion concoctions on it, I eat lots of fish oils, I've avoided the sun.... and there seems to be a tiny bit of improvement. Tiny. I don't know if years to come will show slight improvement along the way until it's fixed or not. I sort of doubt it. So I consider a tummy tuck. But I'm also considering buying a hot tub. It's a bit moot as I don't have the money for either, but in a real way the next $5K I have to spend on a big capital investment would go between one of those two, so they really do get placed head to head like that. When you think about it like that, would you rather have smooth skin (and some risk and expense) or the money? Dally Susan, I can't really answer your question, but I've had a nearly full length mirror in the bathroom for years - it's above the washbasin and opposite the bath, so | get a full frontal when I stand up to get out of the bath. I find I don't have any problem with seeing myself naked, although like you I have a big problem with surplus skin. I don't have this on my stomach, as I've never carried much fat at all round my middle or abdomen, nor have I had children. Mine is on my thighs and backside and I feel almost as self conscious of it when I go swimming or to the doctor's as I felt when it was filled out with fat. I also wonder how I would look if I reach my goal, as I've already lost around 9 inches off my hips and am hoping to lose at least 6 more. As for stretch marks, I acquired these when I was around 18, when my weight was already yo-yoing, and I expect them to be with me for life:( janice 233/177/133 >I need some input from yall. >Last night here in the new house we bought, we have new mirrors in the [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] >Susan >260/200/140 I guess I need to step back and look at the positive things I have traded for the saggy skin. Although It would be a blessing to not have this skin issue. I look great in my size 16/14's, I feel better than I have in 15 years. I am not pre diabetic/insulin resistant any longer, I haven't had a bout of acid reflux since June of last year, my roseca has almost disappeared. The other mystery skin boils/cysts are about gone completely. The drive and determination to get healthier caused me to quit smoking which I am happy with. The depression I've suffered with is at bay. I can do most physical activities with ease now.. and the list goes on and on. And.. Mark loves me and thinks I am beautiful - skin and all. I just wish that I could find something that would help ME feel better about it. Susan 260/200/140 > Susan, I can't really answer your question, but I've had a nearly full > length mirror in the bathroom for years - it's above the washbasin and [quoted text clipped - 35 lines] > >Susan > >260/200/140 > I guess I need to step back and look at the positive things I have > traded for the saggy skin. [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > Susan > 260/200/140 I know what you mean. Your littany is my littany. (Except for the part about Mark. I don't think Mark loves me.) I think that the issues I have with my skin come down to some unrealistic expectation that I *could* somehow "look good naked" (one of the mottos of the weight loss program I started two years ago.) The reality is that MOST people don't look "good" naked in the sense of the media image. I work out in a gym and see half a dozen naked women every day. The ones that look good naked are a tiny percentage - and that's among a population that works out! Somehow we've got to adjust our expectations to reality. Let's all blame the media, shall we? :-) Dally > I think that the issues I have with my skin come down to some > unrealistic expectation that I *could* somehow "look good naked" (one [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > adjust our expectations to reality. Let's all blame the media, shall > we? :-) Thank you! This is the correct answer, of course. Also - did we look better naked when we were FAT??? I know I didn't! I am quite content that I look as good as *I* can right now and the facts are that I'm 48 years old, 5 feet tall and I lost nearly 100 pounds. I wouldn't change any of those things. Candlelight, music, a silky robe on the skin - we all look good <s>  SignatureWalking on . . . Laurie in Maine 207/110 60 inches of attitude! Start: 2/02 Maintained since 2/03 Hark! I heard SnugBear <snugNObear@midmaine.com> say: > > I think that the issues I have with my skin come down to some > > unrealistic expectation that I *could* somehow "look good naked" (one [quoted text clipped - 14 lines] > > Candlelight, music, a silky robe on the skin - we all look good <s> Nicely written, both of you, and I agree. Granted, I have no idea how much skin I'll have hanging around after I'm done, but given my huge C-Section scar (no lateral cuts when they're in a hurry and you're a fat mother-to-be), I never pictured wearing a bikini when I got to my goal weight anyway. I've never had a model's figure, and never will. Still, after losing 34 pounds total since last fall (10 of those via diet/exercise, 24 due to uncontrolled diabetes), I think I look one heck of a lot better naked now. And given the way he's been acting lately, I think my hubby agrees... ;-) SignatureJ.J. in WA State (251/241/150) Hello Susan, I've noticed some excess skin and fat in my lower abdomen and have been considering getting a tummy tuck if it doesn't leave after my reaching my goal. I've been looking at some plastic surgery web sites for local doctors and have been impressed with some of the before and after photos they have taken of clients. I was looking at a price list of common surgical procedures and it appears that the average cost of a tummy tuck is around $4500 I believe and Liposuction is around $2000-$3000. It really can be more or less depending on your doctor and other factors like how many areas you need done and such. If your ok seeing yourself naked or at a pool with a bathing suit on then you probably don't need it. If you can't stand the way you look then maybe you should a tummy tuck. I know of several procedures I'd like to have done, but if I ever decide that I am going to do one it's probably going to be the tummy tuck. Here is a link that shows some before and after photos. It really is up to you. http://www.plasticsurgery4u.com/procedure_folder/abdominoplasty/ Take care, Paul > I need some input from yall. > Last night here in the new house we bought, we have new mirrors in the [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > Susan > 260/200/140 I've seen this site before. I want the tuck too, but I dislike how apparent and dark the scars are. "Paul" <paulftw@charter.net> wrote in message > Here is a link that shows some before and after photos. It really is up > to you. [quoted text clipped - 31 lines] > Checked by AVG anti-virus system (http://www.grisoft.com). > Version: 6.0.620 / Virus Database: 399 - Release Date: 3/11/04 > > > Grossed out by her own skin > > > > > > Susan > > > 260/200/140 susan, a lot depends on your age, and the condition of your skin................... > I need some input from yall. > Last night here in the new house we bought, we have new mirrors in the [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > Susan > 260/200/140 I don't notice any loose skin on my tummy area (yet) but the skin under my chin and on my throat is getting loose and I'm afraid I'm going to have a "turkey" waddle where the double chin used to be. Also my arms are getting more muscular but the fat and skin that hangs like bat wings doesn't seem to be going away. I can pull a pinch of skin away from the fat/muscle there and I can't do that anywhere else! I'm trying an anti-aging skin cream along with a vitamin E cream and some aloe vera. I'm also doing more exfoliating (I figure that at least I can get rid of the dead skin cells). A woman who worked as a laser hair removal tech told me that aloe vera was good for promoting collagen production in skin. The theory is that saggy skin doesn't have enough collagen. I'm just hoping that the skin will tighten up if I keep loosing slow and am patient. The important thing is losing the weight so I don't become diabetic or develop heart disease too soon. Tonia 221/191/130 I am there too! Only my stomach and thighs and boobs are probably in worse shape then yours are. I've yoyoed from 324 to 224 to 284 back down to 212 isince 1999. My tummy will never be flat w/out surgery. I have the money saved for it, I just have to get to goal, stay at goal and try to have a kid. I hope to get this done by the time I am 38 or 39, I am 35 now. Regarding the mirrors... don't let them spook you. Just accept that is who you are. I look at myself naked in mirrors every day and I try to find something I like. For instance, I'll look at my butt and notice how much smaller it has gotten since I've lost so much weight. I'll look at my saggy thighs and notice how muscular they've gotten under all of the excess skin. > I need some input from yall. > Last night here in the new house we bought, we have new mirrors in the [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > Susan > 260/200/140 |
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